Tuesday, January 25, 2011

An Encounter of the Nasty Kind

Being that I live in Tucson, and not just anywhere, but very close to where the shooting here occurred, people here have been pretty emotionally involved. It is not surprising then, that I would encounter clients who want or need to discuss it. Our standard procedure is to never discuss politics, religion or sex with our clients. And generally, I wouldn't want to anyway. And up until this past week, no discussions about the shooting event took that kind of a turn. Mainly people just wanted to express their feelings of sadness.

But the other day I had a client (not a regular) who said she was working at one of the hospitals that victims were sent to. She was working at her desk job there. When reports started coming in of what had happened she said she was sad to hear that Giffords had been shot because she actually liked her. I really wish she had stopped right there. But no, she felt compelled to then tell me that if she had heard that Raul Grijalva, a Democrat Representative here, had been shot she would have cheered. Yup....that's precisely what she said. CHEERED. About hearing that another human being had been shot. She explained to me that she was a registered Republican after all.

I don't care what your F***ing politics are. It is NEVER okay to cheer for the shooting of someone's spouse, parent, child, friend, etc. And then to credit that to your political party? What does that say about you and your party of choice? And why would you proudly share that with a stranger who has their hands in the vicinity of your neck??? It's lucky for her that I was close to wrapping things up anyway. I seriously don't think I could have continued to give her a decent massage after that. I felt myself just go limp. I did not verbally respond at all (there's nothing nice I could have said). I wanted to get very far away from her. If I was working for myself and encountered a client like that I would refuse any future services to them.

Politics and rhetoric may not have played any part in the shooting (and I truly don't believe that it did) but you cannot convince me that politics and rhetoric are not fueling a feeding frenzy among American citizens that results in a general atmosphere of hate for anyone that believes differently from yourself. I feel grateful that for the most part the people here have been incredibly good and kind-hearted through the entire ordeal. But what I've heard coming out of the mouths of right-wing idiots on the national scene has done nothing to change my mind about their overall lack of compassion and decency. One would think they might have taken an opportunity like this to try to bolster their images a little bit? I just don't get them. I truly don't.

I realize that we are all in different places on our journeys. Some are much farther along than others. I try to have patience for those obviously unaware. I, myself, have far enough to go and I can only live my own life. But for the love of God, I am so completely frustrated by just how bad humanity still is. I sometimes am so ashamed to be an American. It makes me feel ill. I want to run away and escape. But of course I know there is no perfect paradise that is conflict-free. Or idiot-free. Or scum-bag-free. Or deranged-looney-free. All I can do is to keep my head where it needs to be, surround myself with as many like-minded people as possible, and practice what I preach (LOVE is the answer).

But to my nasty client this is what I wish I could say: Instead of getting a massage, I recommend that you see a psychotherapist and get your shit together a little!

Monday, January 10, 2011

It's Still Thanksgiving Here....Even Though There's No Turkey :)

Been a long time boys & girls!  I have so much to chat about and not enough hours in the day. So I'll start off with my belated New Year's Resolutions. I've really never been one to bother with something that seems doomed to failure right from the get-go though. And it seems to me that most New Years Resolutions go that way quickly. But this year there is something that I am determined to make a habit of. It feels very important to me. The time has come.

I'm pretty much convinced that the basis for happiness is in living in a state of gratitude. The more one is able to express gratitude, the better life becomes. What flows out from you, flows back to you in even greater quantity. I have been watching this in action. I have a "friend", someone I know online only, who inspires me in many ways. One of things I observe is that she is almost constantly expressing gratitude for all things in her life. Big things, little things, unusual things, ordinary things; nothing is left unnoticed. And this is an ongoing, daily expression. I'll admit that at first I actually found it somewhat off-putting. It seemed contrived to me, I think because I wasn't used to hearing anyone go on and on about even the most mundane things being thought of as blessings. But what I noticed is how many amazing things seem to happen to this woman. No matter what might go wrong for her (and yes, bad things do happen to her), there is always something fantastic that comes out of it. And all the cool stuff that she gets to do all the time. And then there's all the cool people she meets all the time. And did I mention the cool trips she always seems to luck into? The amazing deals she falls into? All the right doors magically pop open at just the right time.  That's the way life is for her. All. The. Freaking. Time. I guess I could be jealous. But how stupid would that be? Why not put into practice what she does? I know from my own experience that having the right attitude does go a long way to smoothing out life's rougher patches. I think it's just time to take it to a higher level.

To help me in getting into the habit of expressing gratitude I will be using this nifty website where you keep your own thankfulness journal. It will remind you if 24 hours go by without you posting. And your thanks are added to the public list that runs continually (unless you choose to keep yours private). So you can also read what others are thankful for. I just started and I'm loving it already. Seeing all the things that other people mention is interesting and inspiring. And I think there's something to putting your gratitude out there for others to hear that "amplifies" it's effect. Sort of like a wave being sent out which builds strength as it combines with the force of other waves.

The website is:  http://thankfulfor.com   My user name there is cherryontop.

And here is a quote I got from the website.

Hem your blessings with thankfulness so they don't unravel.